Misconceptions About Depression and Their Truths

If truth is in the title, I think it is only fair to start with openness and honesty. This has been a difficult week. Truth is, I’ve had a couple of difficult weeks lately. I’ve been afraid to tell my family and friends that I have been struggling with my depression again. So what have I done? Fall into the easy trap - act like everything is normal. I’ve been talking on the phone with friends, working super hard at work, singing at church, compulsively shopping and eating, and maintaining “Happy Derrick”. And it all came to a head this week. I broke down. I forgot about myself and in turn, I hurt myself. 

Here is the reality. Depression is hard. You might not have a mental health diagnosis, but there might be seasons in your life that you will run into that are just plain tough. In these uncertain times, it is important for all of us to prioritize our mental and emotional wellbeing. Don’t forget about yourself. 

I know. I know. Christians just need to pray. Men don’t get sad. Women have to be strong for the family. I have heard all of these faulty principles before. But it is so much more than that. Human beings are naturally complex. We have emotions, feelings, up and downs, and thoughts. And similar to your physical health, your mental health should be maintained, loved and protected. Also, we fear what we don’t understand. It’s okay to not know, but the mix of fear and lack of understanding can produce misconceptions. I had to remind myself this week that my depression is real and deserves real attention. So, before we begin this self-love journey, let’s be sure to unravel some of these untruths about depression. 

Misconception: Depression isn’t real. 

Truth: Depression is a real illness. It unfortunately is not a choice or something you can just snap out of. 

Depression is believed to be caused by a combination of biological, environmental,and social factors. Some experts believe that it is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain, which impacts the brain functionality. As a result, it is a mood disorder that impacts a person’s thoughts, emotions,and actions. Treat depression as you would treat a common cold or any other physical illness. Your overall health is what matters. 

Misconception: Depression is the same as sadness.

Truth: Everyone experiences the emotion of sadness, but depression manifests a bit differently than sadness. 

Emotions like sadness, loneliness, or grief are       a part of being human. But what happens if you don’t bounce back? People with depression have to deal with various symptoms and side effects such as: 

●     Feeling sad or having a depressed mood

●     Feeling anxious 

●     Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed

●     Changes in appetite — weight loss or gain unrelated to dieting

●     Inability to sleep or sleeping too much

●     A hopeless outlook on life

●     Feeling worthless or guilty

●     Difficulty thinking, concentrating or making decisions

●     Fatigue or lack of energy

●     Thoughts of death or suicide (if you are feeling this, please reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline or call 911)

I have experienced all of these symptoms. If you or anyone you are concerned about have experienced one of these, please know that there is help available. 

Misconception: Depression is a weakness. 

Truth: Depression is caused from a biological, environmental, or social factor, NOT because of your character or strength. 

This has nothing to do with your mental, emotional,or physical strength. Sometimes, those with mental illness are the strongest ones. You keep showing up. You keep loving. You keep pushing. You keep hoping. That’s STRENGTH. And acknowledging your illness and seeking help or answers is the strength to become the best version of yourself. 

Misconception: Depression should be private. You shouldn’t disclose your illness. 

Truth: Depression has the power to keep us silent, but your words are more powerful. There is liberation in sharing your story. 

 While depression is hard to endure, it is easy to suffer in silence, to be isolated or to feel shamed. But others can be helpful in your recovery. There are those who care for you and want to see you alive. There should be no shame in sharing your story and finding a community. Speak over yourself. And allow others to speak over you as well. 

Misconception: God must hate me. I must have done something wrong. 

The REAL Truth: He absolutely loves you! He loves you so so much. You did nothing wrong. 

This is not your fault. I’m not sure why this happens. But I do know that he is there with you. God has said, “I will never fail you. I will never abandon you.” (Hebrews 13:5, NLT). Let that sink in your spirit. This might very well be a defining moment for your faith. I’m not sure of that answer, but what I do know is that he is standing next to you. He cares for you. He’s there holding your hand through this entire process. God can handle your doubts, fears, frustrations, failures,and darkest moments. Why? Because he is full of grace. And that same grace is extended to you AND your depression. 

I stand with these truths. Will you stand with me? We will get through it together.